Asking the Big Questions: Is Mental Health Real?

From whether mental health is ‘real’ to why so many men struggle to talk about their emotional wellbeing, the conversation highlights both the challenges we face and the opportunities we have to create more supportive communities.

We invited Sara Taylor, UK Director for Sanctuary Mental Health Ministries, and Ellie Gage, CEO of Kintsugi Hope, to join us on this episode of Asking the Big Questions – both are Benefact Trust grant recipients working to support mental health and wellbeing in churches and communities across the UK.

Why mental health matters

Mental health is an important part of our overall health and affects how we think, feel and navigate daily life. Despite growing awareness, many people still struggle to understand what mental health really means or how it shapes our experiences.

The conversation in this episode begins with a simple but important question: is mental health real?

As both guests explain, mental health is real and is a fundamental part of being human. Just as we all have physical health, we all have mental health. Some people experience periods of positive mental wellbeing, others face challenges with their mental health, and some live with diagnosed mental health conditions. According to the mental health charity, Mind, 1 in 4 people will experience a mental health problem of some kind each year in England.

Recognising that mental health exists on a spectrum can help us move beyond stereotypes and encourage more open conversations about wellbeing.

Why are mental health challenges becoming more visible?

Mental health challenges may be more visible today partly because people are talking about mental health more openly, while many are also facing significant pressures.

Financial uncertainty, the lasting effects of the Covid-19 pandemic, and wider societal challenges can all contribute to increased stress and pressure. At the same time, some of the protective factors that once supported people's wellbeing have weakened.

Both Sara and Ellie point to the decline in community connection as a key issue. While digital technology keeps us constantly connected online, many people report feeling increasingly isolated in their day-to-day lives.

The result is a society where comparison is constant, social pressures can feel overwhelming, and many people struggle to find spaces where they feel genuinely seen and supported.

Why do men find it hard to talk about mental health?

One of the most powerful moments in the discussion focuses on men's mental health.

Sara highlights how societal expectations around masculinity can create pressure for men to appear resilient, capable and self-sufficient at all times. For many, showing vulnerability or admitting they are struggling is still wrongly perceived as a sign of weakness.

These attitudes can have serious consequences. Men often feel less able to speak openly about feelings of anxiety, depression, loneliness or fear, which can leave them feeling overwhelmed and isolated. According to the Samaritans, around three-quarters of all suicides in the UK are men, and suicide remains the leading cause of death for men under 50.

This conversation explores practical ways to help men share their feelings. Sometimes talking face-to-face across a table can feel intimidating, whereas shared activities such as walking, playing sport or spending time together can create more natural opportunities for conversation.

Creating environments where people feel safe to talk remains one of the most important steps in supporting mental wellbeing.

Why does community support matter for mental health?

Community support can play an important role in mental wellbeing, alongside professional healthcare and other services. When asked what society is still getting wrong about mental health support, both guests emphasise the need for greater collaboration.

Mental health challenges are complex, and no single service can meet every need. Healthcare providers play a vital role, but so do schools, community groups, faith organisations, charities and local support networks.

A more joined-up approach can help ensure people receive the right support at the right time, while also recognising the value of belonging, connection and community.

Benefact Trust is committed to supporting charities like Sanctuary Mental Health Ministries and Kintsugi Hope, who are working to create a more joined-up approach to mental health and wellbeing in churches and communities. Sanctuary focuses on training clergy and church leaders to better understand mental health needs, while Kintsugi Hope focuses on creating safe spaces in churches where people can find support and connection.

How can we better support mental health?

The conversation ends with a challenge for all of us. Supporting mental health doesn’t require everyone to become a therapist. It can start with noticing when someone may be struggling, asking thoughtful questions, listening well and helping them feel less alone.

Ultimately, creating mentally healthier communities is something we all have a role in. By making space for honest conversations, challenging stigma and supporting one another through difficult times, we can help ensure that nobody feels they have to face life's challenges alone.

Watch the full conversation

Watch Is Mental Health Real? to hear the full conversation with Sara Taylor from Sanctuary Mental Health Ministries and Ellie Gage from Kintsugi Hope.

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